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Le 18/06/2010 04:07, Majken Connor a écrit :
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cite="mid:AANLkTikt6sok2CuA_YE2kE6cRvjPw7jy0V25wR8Udv2H@mail.gmail.com"
type="cite">In a completely unrelated activity today I came across
Kathy Sierra's blog. I'm part way through this particular post <a
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href="http://headrush.typepad.com/creating_passionate_users/2006/04/angrynegative_p.html">http://headrush.typepad.com/creating_passionate_users/2006/04/angrynegative_p.html</a>
but I wanted to share it because I feel that it explains my
philosophies in a much more educated and non-confrontational way than I
would.<br>
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The section on mirror neurons explains exactly why I feel so strongly
about not dwelling on the group of men who may be sexist. It also
explains why many people avoid identifying as feminist (we all know the
stereotype) and I think it also explains why many women's groups
haven't been successful in creating change - they get bogged down in
wanting to hold men accountable instead of discussing solutions.<br>
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I feel very strongly that if we want to create change we need to focus
on who's doing it right, how they're doing it right, and getting others
to do it right (ourselves included). Of course there's value in knowing
how something can go wrong, so that you can see those things coming and
have a plan on how to head them off, but I think that's secondary once
the right way has been established.<br>
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The gossip example is interesting, and along the same lines as some
things I've seen on the mailing list. One woman (sorry I've forgotten
who) says she finds herself being more rude etc in different company.
I think this applies mostly in situations where it's an activity we
would participate in if it weren't for delayed consequences - in the
gossip example it would be realizing how the subject would feel. E.g. I
don't enjoy smoking cigarettes. When I'm with a group of smokers I
don't find myself smoking for the hell of it. I've certainly had a few
drinks too many when with a group though.<br>
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I know I'm not innocent (by any means) of being negative, and I also
don't believe in ignoring the negative aspects of something - if a
design won't work, you can't fix it if you only acknowledge what works
- and sometimes clear communication requires being negative, but
certainly I have a lot less success at what I'm trying to achieve when
I'm angry.<br>
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Hope you guys enjoy the read, too.<br>
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Thanks for the link Majken. I hope I can read this during the weekend.<br>
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Cheers<br>
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Delphine</pre>
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